As you grow in life our needs, our desires change. There are times we will out grow certain mindsets, certain environments and certain people. This week has been a week of reflection, as I am preparing for the 2016 TAKE OVER. * Beyoncé Dance* I stumbled across the pages of my old journal. While most of my pages where unicorns, skittles, and rainbows there were a few pages filled with thought provoking journaling. In the past year much growth needed to happen in order for me to become the best Roneshia I could be. Now, with 2015 came major heartbreaks, breakups, weight challenges, titles, business ventures, and so much more. But within all of that (yes I managed to survive) came clarity. So as we embark upon 2016 I am challenging each of you to simply live in your “enoughness.”
Theses are my 2016 non negotiable
Harden Not your Heart
2015 I experienced two break ups. At times; I didn’t eat, I didn’t sleep and I literally felt as though the whole world came crashing down on me. The first breakup was with someone I invested a lot into. For me breakups were always very tough and I take them personally. In my mind, I am to blame for it not working out. Even if they had cheated a million times, I still took the blame. In the midst of taking the blame, I also harden my heart after every breakup, every betrayal, and every bad business deal. Each time we harden our hearts we create less space for love which equals less space for our blessings. It is my belief that all great blessings are created through love and the ability to love in spite of the negative things that may occur. The second break up was literally with myself, I mean I really dumped my little insecure self. I needed to rid myself of the fragile, timid person I was behind close doors. I needed so badly to be ME! I needed to free myself of the passive person who mumbled; “Okay” whenever someone said something I didn’t agree with. I needed to ditch the chick who was scared of our own voice. I left her, right after that last break up. Each time we harden our hearts we create less space for love which equals less space for our blessings. It is my belief that all great blessing are created through love and the ability to love in spite of the negative things that may occur in life. I left that part of me and started dating this new chic! And she was CoCo Chanel Fabulous, Olivia Pope bold, Nina Simone outspoken, and Diana Ross Shiny like glitter!
Exhaust Yourself with Intention and Purpose into your Craft
The word exhaust means to use everything within. Often times we want results we are not willing to work for them, therefore they aren’t created. We have to be willing to exhaust ourselves with purpose in order to be the people we want to be and also see the results in our craft that we would like to see. When I look at the greatest singers or the best athletes often times they aren’t the BEST, but rather the most discipline. They exhaust themselves in their craft and therefore the results they seek and the results they get.
Live in your “Uncomfort-Zone”
Lastly, I triple dog dare you to bask in the Uncomfort-zone. C’mon you know that area where we see if and hide under our covers in fear that it will leap out of the shadows, attack us and force us to be AMAZING! Yes, I’m taking about that uncomfortable feeling. I recently got a hold of Shonda Rhimes (The chick who writes all the TV shows we gag over on Thursday) “A Year of Yes” book and while I should probably be focusing on setting boundaries and saying NO! Ha. It made me really think about things I am terrified of! Setting Boundaries! * cue horror music* But in 2016 I will live in my uncomfortable zone and set boundaries that may be uncomfortable for others but necessary for me.
So here in the year of 2016 give it everything you got! Love freely, dream freely, set boundaries, and create the hierarchy you deserve!